tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-368586705393632441.post1730614419894581367..comments2017-07-14T01:55:53.672-07:00Comments on Cath Blackfeather Poetry and Short stories: Sexism .... again. And again. And again. why do we still have to explain this stuff? Dubchickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15642477360116636364noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-368586705393632441.post-47248150502047345522015-09-15T04:03:11.465-07:002015-09-15T04:03:11.465-07:00Hi Cath,
I'm just a bystander here, but I foun...Hi Cath,<br />I'm just a bystander here, but I found your article interesting and powerful. I think I share many of your views on the toxicity of privilege and entitlement.<br />I was wondering whether when you say<br />"when a man tells a woman she is attractive ... He is belittling her,"<br />you would agree with me that this is often unintentional and comes from a desire to observe cultural norms of affection and courtesy (however ill-conceived those norms may be).<br />I realise that the quotation which opens this blog post is a display of failing to take criticism with grace, but it seems a shame to give up on your friend. As you say<br />"I can feel very hurt by any suggestion that I might be racist because of some unthinking comment,"<br />and people sometimes say and do silly things when they feel hurt - I know I do.<br />I guess I'm a sucker for a happy ending and I'm hoping that you two find a way to work through the problem, but I'm also fond of saying that "you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar" where the flies are misguided, inappropriate attitudes, the honey is compassionate debate and the vinegar is ceasing communication.<br />Sorry if I've over-stepped a mark and thankyou for processing your difficulties in a way that can be informative and enlightening for the rest of us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257142219439899938noreply@blogger.com